NEAR UTOPIA OF CONVERGING HUMANITY AND GENDER NEUTRALITY

                                                   "Sex doesn't excite me but Sexuality does"

Yet another episode of gruesome rape takes place,twitter explodes,netizens uproar, politicians try to score up and the law is still taking its own course.When having a discussion with my fellow mate,the question that always surface is "What triggers violence and exploitation?".My friend answered "It's the inherent male dominant mindset that prevails overall." I agree to that,but then,"what you think is the solution?".Maybe, as always believed by me "Education".What a constructive education system does, is,not just the sharing or accumulation of Knowledge but an enhanced and ethical way of thought and living. Sex here is conveniently ignored and is still a taboo subject or a subject of gossip among majority of the population.Either it happens to be funny hyper excitation idea reduced to objectivity and pleasure seeking or it is looked down upon as a mystic not be discussed.However, there also has been a rising  awareness regarding "pedophile" and "child sexual exploitation".While these measures and the steps ahead target the safety of women like defensive arts,stress call number,mahila support centres etc,what we fail to address is the psyche of a biological being and the in-numerous complexity of hormonal interaction.A rational discussion together with an emotional bonding is the need of the hour.With the recent interactions with various social groups, I also came front on head with the matters surrounding adult life.Sex has been a sought out subject and the phenomena of pleasure is considered an expression or need of a physical being.True that.But the problem raises when this need of pleasure is extracted at the expense of someone else's pain.Numerous factors contribute to this outrageous animal behavior. To begin with, poverty with a deadly combination of Consumerism Technology.Next is the biased approach of psychological thinking.The ill effect of globalization has not oiled well with the inherent patriarchial society.When your external life demands you to be modern with a 'hi-fi" thought and false feminist attitude,men by nature look up themselves as esteemed product of a voluptuous society.Lesser are the chances that they treat their partners the same or even lesser are the chances that they bear the guilt of changing the partners with no snag on their pleasure life.That's so because,he is not aware of the biology of himself or his better half as to what it takes to be a woman.This was when the idea of "Beyond gender" took a deep root within me.

Neutrality doesn't mean the idea of foregoing your pleasure thoughts.It's, but understanding your pleasure thoughts.You view both genders as manifestation of nature and the mutual attraction as a harbinger of energy.Well,that's too much a way forward set mark for the society to reach.However,where we need to focus at the current moment is on the mental upbringing of men and the inherent psyche which needs a dusted throw up.Rather than focusing only on safety and the 

post- facto punishment scenario,government,NGOs,teachers and parents need to focus on understanding the sexuality and the anthropological factor hidden behind it.One needs to remember that what is not studied under guidance becomes a deadly manipulative knowledge.Ex.Porn Industry and its exploitation.Its true that the modern generation problems revolve around the stress factor and the euphorical expectations around the marital life.As a society, gender equality is important but what is required even more is humanity.View a woman as a human only then you will be able to view her as a woman and then looking deeper you understand that "What is being a woman?"

"சிந்தையால் தொடுவதும்,சிந்தித்த பின் தொடுவதும் ,சிறு தீப்பொறி தீர தொடுவதும் ,சித்ரவதை செய்து தொடுவதும் காமமே .வீரியம் தான் வேறுபடுகிறது."

The expressions of sex is not done through the manifestations of physical being,its underlying connection lies in the nature of sexuality.A game of two players shouldn't be played by one.Rape is one such where an animal plays with a body of a dead soul.It kills both the game and the gamer.Understand,accumulate and respect the game as well as the player.